Quit putting it all elsewhere

And see how you are part of it.

Growing up is seeing how you play a role, and in fact, take control of all the shit and pleasures in your life.

People only like it when the going is good but when shit hits the fan, they be quick to point their finger to something else — whether that be a person they label asshole, a circumstance they call bad luck, an event they mark unfortunate, or a memory they recall with annoyance.

What they fail to see is when they point that index finger out, three of the fingers actually point back at them.

Check yo self!

So many people blame other things or people for miseries that happen in their lives. Hugas kamay — a Filipino idiom for when people don’t take responsibility for a deed that was done.

Don’t be people.

At the time you were doing it, it was the best. It was done with good intentions. As you learn more and you look at things in hindsight, you figure maybe the outcome was not as expected. Still, you were there in it. Back then, you thought it was all good.

What changed? Perhaps your perspective, your values, or your needs and wants.. a lot of it all points back to you and how you see things. So be happy that you are now learning more about what you find good.

Shift that concern back to yourself. What you feel about a person or situation are your own feelings, and definitely not someone else’s fault.

With great responsibility, does come great power.

Empowerment comes when you take responsibility for your own happiness.. and your unhappiness.. and everything in between!